When drama pops up, knowing where the dividing line is between a solo life lesson and relationship bonding is vital to your sanity and to your growth. It's actually pretty easy to spot once you get in the habit of looking for it! It's a very special type of boundary that will serve you well in all relationships!
How do you know when to pull the plug on something that is personally challenging? Well, I have good news. And I have just news. The good news is, truthfully, things do not happen to us, they happen for us. And that can be hard to stomach or accept when you're in the throes of an emotional challenge, you know, a heated situation. But the truth of the matter is, everything comes with it an opportunity to grow and to learn and to evolve. And on the one hand, you can look at a situation and say, Is this just for me to grow? And, you know, therefore, it's all internal, I guess, processing, understanding, seeking wisdom, you know, getting more clear on what works for you, what doesn't work for you what you want to lean into what you want to lean away from, and why, because there's a crap ton of personal clarity in that. And then there's the situation where, if it's involving another person, or even organization, I suppose, but are we working together mutually towards a solution? Because oftentimes, that's not the case. And if it is, it's amazing, because that's the most beautiful growth of all, you know, two people growing together, finding ways to better understand themselves and each other, and everybody grows both collectively and independently. But sometimes that's just not the case. And the dividing line, is the important thing to understand here. Where is that dividing line, when you're in a situation? Is this a personal growth element for me? Or is this a mutual growth, and when you even just recognize that there is potentially a dividing line, and to start looking for it, and seeing you know where it is for you, if it's their understanding how to recognize it, is just the most amazing thing. Because what I found from personal experience is not even being aware that there's that dividing line and not hitting it until it's just way too late. And I'm so exhausted and depleted and angry and resentful, right. But as I've gone through that, and recognize that there is a dividing line, then that makes it so much easier. Moving forward, you know, using that for growth, that's see right there growth in failure, or failure to recognize I suppose. And seeing that dividing line earlier, and taking action accordingly, which I think is a super cool thing. It's very empowering, because truthfully, nothing is an accident, right? And we only have patterns, like oh, why does this keep happening to me again, because we didn't learn something and maybe the first thing we need to learn is that there is this potential dividing line and how to start recognizing it and then taking action accordingly once we do so I hope that helps you, you know, in some smaller, large way or just all you can really do is kind of reflect on it. And then I love to Monday morning quarterback, you can look back at previous experiences that you've had and ask yourself, was there a dividing line and did I see it and at what point and could I have seen it earlier? And then you get that insight to take forward with you, you know, to use in future circumstances. Anyway, as always, have fun with it, and I'll talk to you in the next episode.