The Kristen Becker Podcast

A New Way Of Looking At The End

January 19, 2022 Kristen Becker Season 3 Episode 4
The Kristen Becker Podcast
A New Way Of Looking At The End
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The end of something can be traumatizing, but it doesn't have to be. Try this reframing practice the next time you are moving through the end of something- OR, use it to find the hidden power in an "end" you have already moved through.


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Why do we go around always trying to avoid the end? To me, that is a perspective that we've adopted from our society and our culture, oh, you got to be consistent, you got to stick it through, you know, people staying in really toxic unfulfilling relationships, because that somehow looks better to the outside world, right? Rather than creating an end. And when you create an end, you also create something crazy exciting, called a beginning, the end is always the beginning of something new. And when you decide that it's time, for an end of something, an end of a job, an end of a relationship, an end of a habit, and end of an eating habit, whatever, get freakin excited about what is on the other side of that experience, which is something new. Now, traditionally, in all my courses and stuff, I have referred to this as creation space, because think about it. When you decide, okay, you know, I've learned my lessons or gotten my insights or whatever from this experience, whatever it is, and I'm ready to move on what is moving on, that's a transition. So that's another way to look at it an end is not an end, it is a transition. And you always want to be trading up, right? Transitioning up, look at what you've accomplished, and what you've learned and the skills that you've gained from the experience that you're ending, and trade up, right, start something new, create that creation space for something better to happen. And creation space, you know, what you have, when you have the end of something you have the end of however it has embodied or I guess engaged your emotions, right? Okay, that's energetic creation space, that's emotional creation, space, time, creation space in your time to do something else that feels aligned with where you are right now, and where you are going. So I hope you see where I'm going with this. Again, I know I say it a lot, but you guys reframing recontextualizing How can I look at this for what it really is? And why do we look at it, you know, the way we might have previously, and you start asking yourself, why did I get so you know, frustrated or clinging to something that just was toxic and not working for me? Oh, because from, you know, society and condition, we're kind of conditioned to stick it out, you know, you it looks better if you stay in that job or that relationship or whatever. And then you just ask yourself, Okay, I get that that's the outside message. But what is my heart saying? What's my inside message saying? What do I really want to do? Then you can get way more excited about this transitional opportunity, this creation space, this new beginning? That's just all I really want to say about the new way, maybe it's a new way. Maybe you're like, preaching to the choir, Kristen, so down with us. But if not, then maybe it's just a new opportunity for ways to look at transition. And, you know, it's kind of an interesting thing I'd like to tack on to this conversation. We've all heard of PTSD, post traumatic shock, what disorder D. And there's also post traumatic transformation syndrome, right. And that's a real thing in psychology and everything. And people aren't really aware of it. Because I guess we tend to tell the story of the trauma, holding on to the trauma. And I'm not saying you know, that anybody was trauma, oh, you just have to look at it this way. I understand. That's all to work through. But I am saying that when you are going through something, instead of telling the story, to let it, build that story of trauma, tell the story of transformation, and look for the creation space and look for the positive aspects of the new beginning. And then learning from what you're taking from whatever it is to hopefully even avoid, you know, going down that road as much as you can. I invite you to take this idea and just reflect on it, roll it into your own life, maybe look at things that are going on and ask yourself, Do I want to choose to look at this as the end right? Or do I want to choose to look at this as a transformation? Do I want to choose to look at this as a new beginning and get really, really excited about it and all the potentials and the possibilities? And like anything else? It will have different meaning for everyone. Just got to fold it in. Just kind of start reflecting on it and having your own experiences and find your own truth in that. So have fun with it. And I'll talk to you in the next episode.